If you’re a parent of a taekwondo student, you’ve likely seen it all: the excitement after earning a new belt, the pride after breaking a board—and the days your child just doesn’t want to go to class.
This is completely normal. And it all comes down to understanding the difference between motivation and determination—two important concepts that can help your child not only stick with taekwondo but also grow stronger mentally and emotionally.
Motivation: The Spark That Gets Them Started
Motivation is what gets kids excited to try something new. Maybe it was watching a martial arts movie or seeing a friend in a cool uniform. Motivation is what got your child through the door in the first place.
But motivation comes and goes. It’s affected by moods, energy levels, distractions, and even how their day at school went. Expecting your child to feel excited before every class just isn’t realistic.
Determination: The Skill That Keeps Them Going
Determination is different. It’s the habit of showing up, trying again, and pushing through challenges—even when they don’t feel like it. It’s what helps a child learn discipline, build confidence, and eventually become someone who doesn’t give up easily.
The good news? Determination can be taught and practiced—and taekwondo is one of the best places to learn it.
How Parents Can Help
- Normalize the ups and downs. Let your child know it’s okay not to feel excited every time. Show them that sticking with something builds strength.
- Focus on commitment, not mood. “We go to class because we made a commitment,” is a powerful message. It teaches responsibility and follow-through.
- Celebrate effort, not just results. Whether your child earned a stripe or simply tried hard during class, praise the effort. Determination grows when kids feel seen for working through tough moments.
- Share stories of perseverance. Remind your child that even black belts once struggled—and they got there by not giving up.
- Stay the course. Some kids resist right before a breakthrough. Staying consistent—even during pushback—helps them cross that hurdle.
Long-Term Payoff
It might be tempting to skip class when your child complains or seems tired. But each time they go—even when they don’t want to—they’re building determination, resilience, and self-discipline. These are life skills that extend far beyond the dojang.
So next time your child says, “I don’t feel like going,” remember: it’s not about forcing them—it’s about guiding them. Motivation is the spark, but determination is the fire that keeps them growing, one kick at a time.